Sunday, August 16, 2009

What is Grace?

I found this bit of philosophy on a bottle of shampoo, bath and shower gel distributed by philosophy®. Great stuff, worth the money. Their website is: www.philosophy.com. Life is a classroom, we are both student and teacher. Each day is a test. And each day we receive a passing or failing grade in one particular subject: grace. Grace is compassion, gratitude, surrender, faith, forgiveness, good manners, reverence, and the list goes on. It's something money can't buy and credentials rarely produce. Being the smartest, the prettiest, the most talented, the richest, or even the poorest, can't help. Being a humble person can and being a helpful person can guide you through your days with grace and gratitude. To me this speaks volumes about how people could better their life by one five-character word, g r a c e. The actions of compassion, gratitude, surrender, faith, forgiveness, and reverence could stop a war instead of starting one, could soften the heart of a parent of a gay child, could stop a family feud before members are no longer around to make amends. The power of one word could change history, if not world history, at least your own. What have you done today to share grace with others?

Sunday, July 26, 2009

Try this sometime at a party…

Have you ever gone to a party and wondered who everyone was but you didn’t feel comfortable asking? Well, I decided I would introduce myself to every single person at this party that we attended last night. I had a blast! And look at who I met...

Terry & Lucy – our co-hosts at their 2nd annual party! They have a lovely home and a wonderful new expanded pottery studio for Lucy. Lucy is very talented and we own several of her creations, go to http://www.luciapottery.com. Also, they have eight chickens that in the future will produce either blue or brown-colored eggs.

Andrew – is the 11 year-old-son of Lucy’s. Awesome soul-searching eyes. He’s going to break lots of hearts in a few years!

Luke – is the 14 year-old-son of Lucy’s. Awesome soul-searching smile. He too is going to break lots of hearts!

Karen – neighbor of John’s, Lucy & Terry’s, and a wonderful friend of ours.

John – neighbor of Karen’s, Lucy & Terry’s, father to Ellie.

Ellie – John’s daughter. Ellie at age 13 has sparkling eyes and a mega-watt smile. I advised her father to keep her away from boys until she’s at least 18 if not 21!

Wendy – is a massage therapist with 14 years of experience and lives around the corner.

Dave – husband to Fran. They live across the way from Lucy & Terry. And, he is the keeper of the Green River.

Fran – wife to Dave. She is the mother to the only person that I couldn’t remember her name!!

Garth – husband to Melinda. He is a fermentologist and brews “local mead from local bees” at Green River Ambrosia. Go to http://www.greenriverambrosia.com to learn more.

Melinda – wife to Garth. She creates fabric art that can be used to dress up your kitchen or dining room areas. She sells these items at the local farmer's market.

Evelyn – recent knee reconstruction and lives next door to where I work on Saturdays.

Terry #2 – hung out with Evelyn & Janet.

Janet – hung out with Evelyn & Terry #2.

Ann & Donna – thought I was amusing learning everyone’s names.

Julie & Jess – they too thought I was amusing learning everyone’s names.

Patti –spent the day cleaning out stalls at her barn making her bad knee even worse.

Dawn – technical writer and makes pottery.

Gail – makes pottery.

Molly – makes pottery and dances like Ellen DeGeneres.

Ben – walked in with Molly, does that mean he’s her boyfriend? He was wearing a Feedco Seeds cap. What is Feedco?

Tim – husband to Tiffany. He was a librarian for nine years and is now attending Nursing School. He is a dedicated Mac owner and convinced me that my decision to leave the PC world is the right decision!

Tiffany – Tim’s wife, whose dog as a puppy ate the entire contents of her jewelry box! The end result is that all of her jewelry became squeaky clean.

Sara – porcelain is her favorite medium, worked with it in College, is now back to taking lessons with Lucy. I saw two of her bowls in their beginning stage in Lucy’s studio. They were nicely executed.

Nate – Sara’s boyfriend, awesome smile and great hair!

Mike – husband to Linda, father to Jamie and Matt. He works at Smith College.

Linda – wife to Mike, mother to Jamie and Matt. She is a graphic artist.

Jamie – daughter of Mike & Linda. A devoted animal lover, now a vegetarian at the age of 10. Future veterinarian?

Matt – son of Mike & Linda. Great hair, slightly curly, has a great smile even with those braces!

Look at what I would of missed if I hadn't gone outside of my comfort zone. Meeting all these great people last night was a wonderful experience. I will definitely try this again, it was a very empowering moment for me.

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Many thanks to Barbara & Stephanie…

Until this morning they were complete strangers to me. I met both at Woodstar Café, which I personally believe is the best coffee shop in all of Northampton, and the friendliest!

I started talking to Barbara when I could tell that she wasn’t sure where to pick up her order. I then went into great detail about how wonderful the food is especially my favorite, which is the Nantucket sandwich. She smiled and told me she is from that area. Well, from there I asked if she’d like to share a table for a few minutes. We chatted so long that she ran out of time on her meter. I hope she didn’t get a ticket!

It was such a wonderful moment in time. It felt like meeting up with an old friend that you haven’t seen for a long while and sharing memories. We talked about lots of things including religion and how life is not always fair and never what you expect it to be. We talked about her two boys. Yes, she showed me their pictures. She’s a proud mama and she should be. They are so handsome! I spoke about Mary and our dogs. It was a fun time.

As we were winding up our conversation and exchanging e-mail addresses, I tried to write down my blog address, but couldn’t remember if it was blog or blogspot.com. This is where lovely Stephanie comes into the story. She was sitting next to us with her computer, (yes Woodstar has WiFi). I asked if she would be willing to try several versions of what I thought my blog address was and she figured it out. Go Stephanie!

I have not written anything in my blog since February, but thanks to meeting these two, my writer’s block is over!

Saturday, February 21, 2009

Other People's Thoughts

Below are thoughts from others that I have recently found helpful in my personal journey...and you might find helpful in yours.

Fear – Author: Unknown

False
Evidence
Appearing
Real



Recipe for Joy – Author: Jerry Hicks

Seek joy, first and foremost
See reasons to laugh
Seek reasons to offer words of praise to self and others
Seek beauty in nature, beasts, and other humans
Seek reasons to love in every segment of every day
Look for something that brings forth within you a feeling of love
Seek that which uplifts you
Seek opportunity to offer that which uplifts another
Seek a feeling of well-being
Know that your value can only be measured in terms of joy
Acknowledge your absolute freedom to do any of these things
Or not do any of these things
For it is, without exception, your choice in every moment of every day.



No title – Author: Charles Swindoll

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company…a church…a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we embrace for that day. We cannot change our past … we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you. We are in charge of our Attitudes.

Sunday, January 25, 2009

Another day...and the saga continues.

At this moment in our lives, we have Three Women, Four Dogs, and a Handicapped African Gray Parrot living in 1100 square feet of house. And, it is working out much better than the three of us had ever hoped for.

But, there are days when it is a freaking zoo around here!

Take yesterday for example. I was taking a break after getting home from my Saturday job. Two of the dogs started barking because they heard something out on the road. I look out and it is the furniture delivery truck arriving 2 ½ hours sooner than we had expected!

Thankfully, Mary and Lisa had spent time in the basement that morning re-arranging so there was a cleared area. But, we had planned for the delivery to go through our outside cellar doors and we hadn’t cleared off the snow. So Lisa went out in her house slippers and cleared it off while the truck was backing into our driveway. With Mary’s help, they both moved garbage cans and shoveled a walkway from our driveway to the cellar doors. This is with four dogs loudly barking and running back and forth wanting to go outside and poor me wishing for ear plugs and trying to calm them all down.

Fast forward - the furniture has made it to the basement with only minor drama. But now someone is knocking on the kitchen door and the dogs go berserk, again! I squeezed past four dogs to see who it was. It is one of the delivery guys wanting me to sign paperwork. I explained to him that one of our dogs doesn’t like strangers and that was why I was making every effort to keep her from them. That statement caused him to head back to the truck cab!

In the meanwhile, I couldn’t figure out where Mary and Lisa were, but I went ahead and signed the paperwork. As the driver headed toward his truck, I asked him if Mary had given him his tip. He said “No” just as Mary barreled around the corner of the house. She’s yelling, “You locked the basement door and we couldn’t come up through the house!” So I ran back into the house trying to keep the dogs from pushing their way out and I unlocked the basement door. I find Lisa standing on the steps saying “there is a missing table leaf,” while I am handing her the signed paperwork! She squeezes through the mass of fur and goes out to talk to the driver.

It was decided that the driver needed to come in to the house to look at the table in the basement. But thanks to my earlier statement about Chloe, he didn’t want to. So, I had to get a collar on Chloe, walk her to the other end of our house, and hang out in the study with her. She wasn’t a happy camper, but with lots of encouragement and a few dog treats, we made it through this latest hurdle. Come to find out, the table only has one leaf, so all is right in furniture land.

So this is my life right now: four dogs barking, one handicapped parrot talking a mile a minute, and three women all living under the same roof. Life is good.

Friday, January 16, 2009

Good Morning!

Today is Friday, January 16, 2009:

It is extremely cold, around -12 degrees, when I let the dogs out this morning, they did their business and quickly hurried back in, thank goodness!

Fast Eddie had to put on his special coat so he wouldn't get too chilled. The other three have thick coats of fur and fair much better in the cold than he does.

Lots of things are going on and soon I promise I will do a continuation on our crazy lives.

In the meanwhile, here are new photos. Chloe, our Diva Dog is in the hat and fur stole. Her photo will be updated as she had misplaced her pearls for this photo shoot but they have since been found. The curled up dog is Tyler from Hawaii and the African Gray Parrot is Justice, also from Hawaii. And of course, more shots of Fast Eddie.

More to come....

P.S. – Take a moment today to say a pray of thanks or healing thoughts about the miracle that happened yesterday on the Hudson River. God Bless.

Monday, December 22, 2008

Chancey’s Obsession

Chancey, a Scottish Terrier, is the latest addition to our four-legged fur family. I dog-napped him this past summer while visiting a friend down in New London, Connecticut. She was dog-sitting him for a week while his family (who didn’t want a dog in the first place but their daughter did) were on a business trip.

At the age of two: Chancey hated being leash walked so he pulled a lot; he had a great fear of anything with wheels on it; he didn’t know any basic dog commands (sit, stay and go do a doggie commercial and bring home mega bucks!) nor was he potty trained. With that said, I wanted a better life for him. So I brought him home. Which made him dog number three in our tiny little house (1097 sq. feet) on a heavily trafficked road with no fenced-in yard. What was I thinking?

I learned quickly that I was in way over my head. The first episode happened when I took all three dogs to the dog park (read a Fast Eddies’ story for a better description of the park). I had Chancey on a leash but he was pulling so hard I let him off, a very stupid move on my part. Everything was fine until we met up with several groups of dogs. With all the doggy greetings involved, (barking, sniffing butts and a little bit of growing) he quickly walked off with another group. By the time I got my wits about me and had the other two dogs under control, I realized that I was missing the newest addition. Yikes! I walked around yelling for him but no luck. I took Chloe and Fast Eddie back to the Jeep and went searching for him.

I was running around asking the other dog owners walking their dogs if they had seen him. No luck! Finally, a woman with her own three dogs shows up with Chancey in tow. Yea!!

Episode #2 – I didn’t have a tight hold on him while transporting him from the Jeep onto the kitchen porch. He quickly took off and headed East on Rt. 66 while walking down the middle of the road using the yellow lines as a guide. With four knee surgeries, it is hard for me to move quickly much less run but run I did, and I scooped him up.

Episode #3 – We are back at the park and I’ve now learned to keep him on leash and use the Gentle Leader that our friend had given us which I wasn’t using until then. It was just the ticket when it came to keeping him from pulling and under control. We finished our morning walk and headed back to the Jeep. Both Fast Eddie and Chancey needed help getting up into the back. So I lifted Eddie up first and took off his leash while holding onto Chancey’s. Then it was Chancey’s turn. My big mistake was removing the leash before lifting him up into the Jeep and he took off. I went running after him leaving Chloe outside the Jeep with a fellow dog walker and Eddie in the Jeep. Right next to the parking lot is a large community garden which was in full bloom in late July. Well I couldn’t see him since he was so close to the ground. He evidently returned to the parking lot where we were re-united.

Episode #4 – A friend of ours came over for dinner this past Fall. We were using a baby gate out on the kitchen porch to keep the dogs contained and off of Rt. 66! In letting our friend onto the porch I created a small opening that Chancey used for his escape. I’m screaming for him to stop while I’m doing my version of jogging to catch up with him. Off he goes again heading East on Rt. 66! Now he’s a black dog and the light was fading, it was hard for me to see him much less for on-coming traffic. Off course, a woman waving her arms does make traffic slow down a bit. The first driver stopped but the truck behind her moved around her and was heading directly toward Chancey and the driver didn’t see him in the road. At this point, I felt something moving quickly to my left. It was Mary madly running. She hasn’t had any knee surgeries yet so she’s still able to sprint. She had heard my screams from the back of the house and knew it had to do with one of the dogs. She finally reached Chancey before the truck ran him over and gave him a talking to!

Episode #5 –Mary and Lisa (our friend from Hawaii) had just gone shopping for our Christmas dinner and were unloading the groceries with Chancey jumping up and down on the porch. He was so excited that they had come home. Seeing the opportunity to make a run for it, he did. Both Mary and Lisa ran yelling and screaming as he again headed East on Rt. 66. This time is was light enough for traffic to see him. Traffic came to an abrupt halt. Coming from the East was a large truck, the driver made a quick decision and turned his vehicle so that it blocked the road. And, a pick-up truck coming from the West stopped traffic from that direction. Yea, another possible disaster averted!

We’ve come to the conclusion that Chancey thinks he’s “Toto from the Wizard of Oz.” He is a small terrier like the original Toto was. He hails from Kansas and he is always searching for that elusive yellow brick road like so many of us are!